Typically one needs to be able to estimate things oneself and decide freely, whether one participates in something or not. Otherwise one cannot take part with a full heart. If beer makes one social with all without much estimates of how that works, then it at the same time makes one take distance from those social relationship, to not to fully take part and commit oneself to them in the long run.
The Finnish word for "angel" is "enkeli" which literally means "I do not" "Weather" or "No" "Weather" which seems to contain the same wisdom: you cannot ask someone to behave like an angel, if they do not have the freedom to say no and not participate in things that they do not like or agree about. Full support needs the freedom to say No.
Sunday, December 28, 2014
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
Typically foreigners think that the advice to use a picture of the whole means a certain kind of picture of the whole with rules etc, and so they refuse tyo use it because nobody teaches them such. But a picture of the whole means any kind of picture of the whole, it means your own version. Just mark in it the things that you know, for example instead of just mentioning "She is a Finn.", mention also "Finns live in Finland.". For example a map of the world is an ok picture of the whole. If you mark like this "She wants that and I want this. " and also "I live here, I am doing this. She lives there and shre is doing that.", then you can easily solve most problems by grouping people with different opinion to different groups, like "I do this and they do that." or "We live here and have our lives here. And they live there far away and have their lives there." Just include all your knowledge in your picture of the whole, and it becomes easy for you to avoid needless conflicts.
Wednesday, January 8, 2014
I have always found moraö easy and natural for me, kind of a version of happy life wth an easy landscape like view of life in the environment. As a child I had two chairs and one knife which had colours that made moral easy: One chair was of reddish wood, kind of practical wiht feelings allowed. The other chair was of reddish wood with a red cushioning partly balckkish from dirt, kind of practical life with a tsrong inclination toward reaching for happiness allowed and some black so as to not to be down for any shortcomings, which are quite natural when one is still young and just in the learning phase in many things in life. My very evil brother had a chair of very light wood with a white bark with black broken places in it. He tried to reach for moral that way: too dilgently, lot of work but unbearable in the long run. His knife was of the same kind of wood with dark grey lines in it (that is one sort of that tree), and mine had a handle of reddish brown wood with something slightly lighter like holiday spirit in it. I often think that all people have a different idea of moral. If that idea is easy for they skills, kind of very natural and brings good life for them, they tend to be moral easily and often. But if their view on what is moral is diffcult for their skills and ruins their life, they tend to be evil. White is too difficult. I have two dogs: white and light brown, so I sometimes wonder if I too should sometimes wear a white coat, but white is the end result of doing something pleasant, I meant that good quality is the end result then, but symbolic colours indicate typically the starting ground, for which easiet is slightly reddish middle brown. Mixing in some whte is ok, kind of indication a value, but in order to reach it in practise brown, green and red are easier and bring a good moral in the long run - Well, that is so according to my experience.