Freedom

Even if the society is the same and social relationships not friendlier, people can have different amounts of freedom to do what they want. Typically the society wants to arrange good life possible for all the ounger generations, and for the older too, so the ordinary official options to choose one's profession, hobbies, place of living, spouce, social relationships and walues as far as they fit into a society, are intended by the older, more experienced generations to be real options, real possibilities to choose what one wants. That is why one ought not choose some social style or social classification which says that one ought not invest in the official options at all, but instead, regardless of what one otherwise chooces, use the official possibilities for choosing fully. But that does not always work out, since one needs extra skills or socially likable style or the like, but anyway one has in those occasions the support of the older generations' woisdom.
http://todreamjob.blogspot.com
https://healthilymoral.blogspot.com/2011/08/world-is-of-love.html
About one's possibility to choose freely hobbies etc, as far as those are fit into the society, the Finnish rule "Live and let others live" helps a lot: https://finnishskills.blogspot.com/2012/10/live-and-let-others-live.html